Romans 15-16, Proverbs 5

We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up. For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.” (Romans 15:1-3)

Here Paul the Apostle encourages selfless actions and attitudes toward neighbors, especially those who have exhibited weaknesses. But what are some selfish actions and attitudes toward neighbors? I offer a brief, incomplete list:

• Be intolerant of others' failures.
• "Kick them when they are down."
• Discover others' weaknesses, then exploit them.
• Ignore neighbors.
• Take care of "number one."

Some folks try to please neighbors, but for their own good, not for their neighbors' good. They may think, "If I please her, then she will feel indebted to me," or "When I please him it will make me feel good," or "Whenever I please them I look better in the community." Such attitudes are self-serving.

What a difference when folks please neighbors for their neighbors' good! It has the effect of strengthening those neighbors, helping them to feel wanted, cared for, valued, and loved. It also helps to humble one's self.